I’ve realised something about myself over the last few days – I really don’t like people. (Sorry.) Everyone has been irritating me lately, and I mean everyone. People really are the worst.
Maybe it’s just because I’m considered “a nice person”, but I often feel like people take advantage of this, and I’m sick of it. To quote Gwen Stefani: “I’ve had it up to here.”
I don’t want to go off on a “poor me” tangent, but I feel like I always go out of my way to be accommodating to others, and very rarely is it reciprocated. I’m sure everyone feels like this at some stage.
Which is why I’m going to spend the rest of my weekend on the couch in my pyjamas, watching cat videos and looking at pictures of cute donuts. (Seriously, have you ever seen anything cuter?!) You do you, I’ll do me.
This is fine, because I genuinely love my own company. (I’m awesome, so it’s hard not to. And if you haven’t met me, I feel bad for you. But please don’t introduce yourself, because – let’s be real – you’ll probably just disappoint me and piss me off, too.)
Why do I feel like this right now? No real reason… Except for a few little encounters that have all accumulated, leading to my current state of being.
Here are five reasons people suck…
1. They Talk
Sometimes people just talk for the sake of talking (yes, I can be guilty of this too), and the shit that comes out of their mouth is not safe for public consumption.
2. They Smell
Some people do. They smell really bad. Have you ever been trapped under a man’s armpit during a peak-hour commute on a train? I have.
3. Too Much Effort
Any relationship should be a two-way street, and more often than not, I feel like the designated driver on a one-way road. (This is not just a metaphor – I regularly do end up being the designated driver.) In short: too hard basket.
4. They’re Annoying
I don’t know if it’s intentional, but some people just really know which buttons to push. It’s like, “Well done. You’ve successfully pissed me off. Here’s a shit trophy.”
5. They’re Selfish
This one really grates… While it’s important to put yourself first, if you’re taking advantage of others to do so – whether you’re using them emotionally or constantly expecting favours – you’re a really shitty person. Be more considerate of others. It’s as simple as that.
Current blog post aside, I am a generally happy and outgoing person, and as a result, I feel like I have a tendency to attract a lot of people who – maybe without even realising it – are draining. (A psychic once told me this, so it must be true.) It’s like people somehow expect my positive energy to rub off on them, making them feel better about themselves. But if I’m being honest, this often leaves me feeling used, exhausted and stranded in the middle of the ocean like Claire Danes… (Yes, I know this doesn’t make sense, but there’s a GIF.)
I don’t think there’s anything exceptional about me or the way I’m feeling right now. I’m sure many have felt like this before and many will feel like this after me, too. But in a world where people are constantly looking out for themselves, I hope this serves as a reminder to be a little kinder and more considerate of the people around you. Particularly the people you love.
Ask someone how they are and really listen when they answer, or offer to do something to help someone out. Most importantly, make time for people! (After recently undergoing shoulder surgery, it was a real eye opener to see who made time for me…) We’re all busy. Kindness doesn’t cost anything, but its effects are priceless.
Remember, the world has a greater population than just you – we’re all in this thing together.